How To Know When You’re Making Progress, Journey of Enlightenment, And Extra

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Hey everybody! Final week, I requested you to ship in your questions. Over the weekend, I compiled and answered YOUR superior questions, together with questions on confidence, determination making, enlightenment, and the way to be a coach.

On this episode of The Private Excellence Podcast, I discuss

Easy methods to know you’re making progress while you’re not seeing outcomes [00:47]
Utilizing success easter eggs to trace your progress [01:51]
What to do for those who’re not getting any outcomes in any respect [02:57]
Easy methods to decide and keep away from disappointing somebody [04:30]
Easy methods to know for those who have reached enlightenment [06:57]
My feeling of disillusionment prior to now 12 months [08:36]
Your roadmap on your consciousness development [09:56]
Easy methods to be a coach — My suggestions for you [11:45]
Why teaching programs are merely 0.01% of the equation to be a profitable coach [13:08]
Easy methods to be assured [16:06]
The ONE factor that’s most vital in life – Profession? Well being? [19:45]
Easy methods to be organized and the calendar system I exploit [22:02]

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How To Know When You’re Making Progress, Journey of Enlightenment, And Extra [Transcript]

Welcome to The Private Excellence Podcast. The present that’s all about serving to you be your finest self and stay your finest life. Now, your host, Celestine Chua!

Celestine Chua: Hey everybody! Welcome to the Private Excellence Podcast Episode 11. That is Celestine Chua from PersonalExcellence.co.

A couple of days in the past, I despatched out an e-mail by way of the e-newsletter asking you guys to ship me your questions so I can reply them on the podcast. For these of you who are usually not on the e-newsletter, do be a part of — it’s at personalexcellence.co/e-newsletter/. I ship updates and messages that I don’t publish on the weblog.

So, a few of you guys have despatched in your questions and I’m tremendous excited to reply them. Effectively, let’s get began!

Easy methods to know in case you are making progress

“Greetings to you Celes. I wish to ask: Generally I feel I’m doing the whole lot, greater than I’m imagined to do to achieve success. Nevertheless it looks like issues are usually not working nicely for me. My query is: For the targets that you’re working in the direction of, how are you aware there’s progress? How do you see progress in the whole lot that you just do? Thanks.” — Nameless

This is a superb query. So how are you aware if you find yourself making progress on one thing you’re engaged on?

I wrote a publish earlier than on the 21-day incubation interval and I’m going to be sharing hyperlinks to all these articles I’m speaking about within the present notes, so that you guys can click on to learn extra. So I wrote this publish earlier than on the 21-day incubation interval and basically, for a lot of of our targets, particularly for big targets that take an extended interval to attain, typically it may possibly really feel like we’re placing in all this effort however we don’t see any progress or outcomes. We surprise: Are we heading in the right direction or are we not? Is one thing taking place?

My advice is to know the way to spot what I name “success easter eggs.” That will be indicators telling you, “Hey, you’re heading in the right direction and you’re doing issues proper. So long as you do extra of this, you’ll attain the proper place.”

What are the sorts of success easter eggs to look out for? It is dependent upon your purpose. You must set milestones and little verify markers to let you understand that you’re transferring to the proper place.

Say you wish to begin a enterprise. Success easter eggs may very well be:

You getting that first buyer
You getting constructive suggestions from the shoppers, the few clients you will have served, telling you ways nice your service or your product was and the way they might undoubtedly suggest it to different individuals

So while you begin getting this sort of suggestions, you understand that you just’re transferring heading in the right direction. And also you wish to determine the issues serving to you obtain these outcomes, and to proceed these actions and amplify them.

Should you’re not getting any form of outcomes in any respect, like after you set sure success easter eggs and milestones and you aren’t attaining them after a sure interval of labor, it’s good to cease and troubleshoot. Perceive what’s going on, why there are not any outcomes in any respect — mainly do an audit to grasp what’s working, what’s not working.

So take a step again and take into consideration:

What’s the scenario proper now? What’s the purpose I wish to obtain?
The place am I proper now versus this purpose?
What have I been doing? What’s working what’s not working?
Perhaps determine sure individuals who have achieved the outcomes you need. What are you able to be taught from them?

By reviewing and studying out of your errors or the issues that you just’re not doing nicely or that’s not working in any respect, and experimenting with new issues, there can be a degree while you see these first indicators of success. It must be. As a result of let’s say that first batch of actions that you just took, they aren’t working, they’re not bringing you to the place you wish to be.

Then, by elimination and by studying out of your function fashions and success figures within the trade, it will likely be a matter of time earlier than you get nearer to what you wish to be and obtain that.

Easy methods to keep away from disappointing somebody

“Hello Celes. That is Sandra from Israel. I wish to ask a query: Easy methods to take care of a scenario the place you need to choose, however you keep away from selecting what you need since you don’t wish to disappoint any individual else. It’s essential and I’m certain you’ll have a superb reply. Thanks.” — Sandra, Israel

Hey Sandra, this is a superb query.

So it appears there are two conflicting elements concerned right here. First, you wish to do what you need. Clearly, all of us ought to all the time do what we wish. Secondly, you want to keep away from disappointment.

It looks like you’re speaking a few determination right here that for those who do what you need, you could disappoint somebody. However, for those who don’t do what you need, you’ll keep away from the frustration of that individual, however somebody’s bought to be disenchanted, isn’t it? And that individual goes to be you.

That is the place you understand my stance — I’m all the time speaking on the weblog to observe your coronary heart. Clearly we don’t wish to stay our lives irresponsibly and never take into accounts individuals’s emotions.

I don’t know the specifics of your scenario however I might suggest to speak to this individual concerned. Should you don’t wish to disappoint this individual, I’m fairly certain this individual should be fairly vital to you, proper?

So discuss to him/her. Let him/her know what’s in your thoughts, this dilemma that you just’re in. As a result of both path just isn’t supreme. I’m not going to be recommending both path. Once we are in a conflicting scenario the place there are opposing forces, my advice is all the time to search for that higher path. That path the place all key wants could be met. This requires us to interrupt out of the confines we’re in, to contain different events, and to have a dialogue in order that we are able to discover that higher choice.

So I want you the most effective Sandra and let me know the way issues go, okay? Discuss to this individual and let him/her know what’s in your thoughts, this dilemma that you just’re in. And simply share with him/her, and see what you guys can work out.

Easy methods to know when you have reached enlightenment

“Hello Celes, I’m Luis from Portugal. I wished to ask you about one thing that we’ve talked about a very long time in the past in The Private Excellence Boards. We have been speaking about meditation and also you advised me you had the purpose to achieve enlightenment in a sure timeframe. At the moment I challenged you in your capacity to measure that. However over time, I discovered that some traditions do current methods to measure enlightenment.
So my query is that this: Did you ever attain that purpose? If sure, how do you know while you have been there? And if not, do you will have a greater thought of what it should look or really feel like? Thanks on your time and for the nice materials over time. Bye bye.” — Luis, Portugal

Hey Luis. That’s a superb query. To reply you proper off the bat, no I’m not at a stage of enlightenment but. I nonetheless face many struggles, many issues, points, and issues that I’m simply working by way of. I see all of that as a part of this journey of life, working by way of these issues.

If I may simply make clear what I feel I used to be making an attempt to say at that time, I see enlightenment as the top purpose for myself and for any human actually. That our journey in life is to develop in consciousness and as with all journey, there can be milestone checkers or finish vacation spot that we take note of. Due to that, naturally, that may lead us to a sure finish level and this endpoint of consciousness can be enlightenment.

So I feel that was what I used to be making an attempt to say. Simply to set issues straight, I wasn’t making an attempt to be loopy or humorous by saying that my purpose in life is to achieve enlightenment and I’m all sensible and monkish and all.

It’s attention-grabbing that you just’re asking this query particularly when one among my current posts is on disillusionment. I used to be speaking about how disillusioned I’ve been feeling prior to now couple of years, seeing all these various things around the globe, the problems. It additionally actually made me take into consideration how our journey in life doesn’t actually finish till we elevate everyone round us. Not simply in our fast neighborhood however throughout us on the planet.

Because of this I don’t suppose anybody can actually say that they’re enlightened till everyone on earth is enlightened, if it is sensible? As a result of all of us are interrelated. Simply as we’re inside this universe, I additionally suppose that the universe is inside us and the whole lot in actuality is part of us.

So I really feel that it’s our accountability to develop and as we develop, to carry everybody round us up.

This then brings us to your query which is: How do we all know how we’re progressing in the direction of the top purpose of enlightenment? And that’s a superb query. I’ve an article on the map of consciousness [Update: The article is now offline; you can read more about the map in the book Power vs. Force]. It’s a scale developed by David Hawkins to measure consciousness.

It begins from decrease ranges of Disgrace, Guilt, Apathy, Grief, after which transferring as much as Concern, Want, Anger.
It goes to the midpoint which is Braveness.
The opposite half of the dimensions consists of love-based ranges like Willingness, Acceptance, Love, Pleasure, Peace, and the best degree is Enlightenment.

So this whole scale is cut up into two huge classes. The primary one consists of fear-based ranges, and what David Hawkins known as the section of “Drive.” The opposite one is “Energy,” which consists of love-based ranges.

“Drive” as a result of in these ranges, individuals have a tendency to make use of pressure to resolve issues. For instance: Punishment, struggle, violence, anger, repression, forcing individuals to do sure issues. Whereas the second section is on “Energy” and “Energy” that means quite than utilizing implicit or bodily pressure to get individuals to behave a sure approach, you’re utilizing “Energy,” say bringing out the most effective in individuals.

I undoubtedly suggest studying the article. I write in additional element on the distinction between every degree. Loads of readers have discovered this scale very useful and I like to recommend utilizing this as a private development / consciousness roadmap to trace the place you’re proper now in your consciousness growth, and to offer you an thought of what’s forward and the milestones, the top purpose to maneuver in the direction of.

Easy methods to be a coach

“I wish to be a coach such as you. Are you able to be my mentor?” — Adelynn, Singapore

Hey Adelynn! That’s implausible that you just wish to be a coach. If I could, let me rephrase your query to “How can I be a coach?” And it is a query that I get fairly often.

The very first thing that I’d suggest is to go for some teaching programs. That is the idea that you’re ranging from scratch, from floor degree and also you’re trying to be a coach. Make talent growth and growing your experience that first precedence.

There are specific individuals who take into consideration teaching as this good career and so they simply leap in and name themselves a coach — which is okay as a result of there’s nothing incorrect with calling somebody a coach. So long as we’re serving to individuals, that itself is teaching. However some individuals see it as, Okay, I name myself a coach and I begin charging individuals a number of hundred {dollars} an hour for teaching.

To me that may be a incorrect method to strategy it. Firstly, it is vitally vital that we concentrate on constructing our abilities. This will or will not be by way of programs. It might merely serving to individuals, doing pro-bono teaching, looking for out individuals round us to work with them on their targets. And training programs can be one facet of talent growth.

On the similar time, and that is one thing that I inform all my purchasers, don’t get misplaced on this complete part of taking teaching programs. As a result of to be sincere, the talent constructing facet of being a coach is like 0.1% or 1% of your complete equation of getting a profitable teaching profession.

There’s an enormous 99% or 99.9% which is on different issues altogether. This consists of figuring out the way to place your self, figuring out the way to differentiate your self from the zillions of coaches on the market, figuring out the way to arrange a enterprise, handle a enterprise and really market what you are promoting and make it recognized, and figuring out the way to develop your talent in that space the place you wish to assist others.

For instance some individuals wish to be a relationship coach. Some individuals wish to be a well being coach. Some individuals wish to be a life coach. Even inside life teaching, there are a lot of completely different segments. Some individuals concentrate on non secular teaching, some concentrate on productiveness teaching, some can be on life function and discovering your course and keenness. So you will need to get clear on that.

In brief, set your eyes on the ultimate purpose which helps individuals and supporting them of their life journey. Determine the steps to do this.

So first, talent growth. Take a look at sure programs. Right here I wish to give a caveat. Don’t fall into the entice — there are particular programs on the market that current themselves as this, “Be part of my course and also you’ll turn into a vastly profitable coach and be taught 5 figures per 30 days.” Don’t fall for these. Regardless of how good a course is, taking that course is simply 0.1% of your complete equation.

Subsequent, studying about enterprise fundamentals, advertising fundamentals. This may be from studying books, studying blogs. A lot free info on-line in the present day. Except somebody has really dug into all this free info on-line and completely researched and skim each single weblog, I don’t suppose individuals needs to be pumping in four-figure sums on programs that declare to offer you magic bullet outcomes.

Subsequent can be setting a plan. What are the primary steps of success? Figuring out the primary group of individuals you’ll be able to strategy and simply coach without spending a dime as a part of constructing your credentials, constructing your testimonials. After which transferring ahead from there.

I’m going to be linking to a number of articles within the present notes that will assist. It consists of Are Teaching Programs Needed To Be a Coach?, my Profitable Companies Interview Sequence, and my How To Pursue Your Ardour collection. That may be a large collection of articles I’ve written over time on the assorted steps that I went by way of in pursuing my ardour and that can be contained in the present notes as nicely. Do verify them out. There are various tricks to get you began.

Easy methods to be extra assured in your self

“Hello, I’m actually glad that I discovered this web site. I discovered it by coincidence in the present day. I’m 16 years outdated. I’m from Egypt.
My downside is that I’m probably not assured. I present that I’m actually assured however deep inside I’m not. I really feel that I’m not fairly. Everybody tells me that I’m fairly however I don’t really feel that in any respect. Consequently, I don’t really feel assured when coping with the opposite gender as a result of I don’t really feel engaging sufficient and I can’t open a superb dialog.
Additionally, I really feel dangerous that I’ve not reached wherever in my life. I do know that I’m nonetheless 16 years outdated, I’m nonetheless younger. However my colleagues have achieved actually implausible issues so I really feel I’m not enough. I’m probably not assured. And I really feel… I’m fed up due to this character.” — Nameless, Egypt

Hey thanks a lot for sharing your query. It sounds to me that you’re very exhausting on your self and I can completely perceive that.

After I was youthful, there have been undoubtedly moments of insecurity and simply this part of figuring your self. And with faculty bullying, societal pressures, all these pictures on journal covers, and guys evaluating ladies by their seems to be, it’s very exhausting a youngster to return totally into his/her personal when there are all these misguided, unfavourable, and low-consciousness forces in play.

At this time with the Web, it doesn’t assist in any respect as a result of now there’s what, there’s Instagram — which is okay as a software nevertheless it appears to be extra generally used to current ostentatious materials items or to flaunt sure life in the present day.

What I like to recommend is to acknowledge your self as this distinctive human being on Earth whereas acknowledging there are seven billion individuals on the market who’re all people. All of us are people in our personal path, dwelling and dealing to be our greatest self, with out comparability to anybody else.

And it is vitally essential to acknowledge that. As a result of let’s say you reside in a society that’s very a lot about conforming and being half of a bigger group, particularly so in Asian nations, it is vitally straightforward to lose your identification. And I feel most individuals don’t even acknowledge themselves as this distinctive individual unbiased of a gaggle.

Now you will need to acknowledge our function in society, our function in communities, all of those are vital. However don’t lose sight of the truth that you’re one human being together with your distinctive particular person identification. That’s my one greatest recommendation on confidence. As a result of oftentimes after we lose confidence is after we begin evaluating ourselves with different individuals and surprise, Why am I not like that? Why am I not like this?

Right here I might suggest to learn two posts: One publish is on the way to be assured and one other publish is on the way to cease evaluating. Undoubtedly learn each of them. I share extra suggestions inside on how to do this.

The one factor that’s a very powerful in life

“What’s the solely factor which issues most in our life? Is it relationship? Is it job? What’s the one factor which is essential in life? Crucial factor.” — Hitesh, India

That is an attention-grabbing query from Hitesh, which is, “What’s the one factor that issues probably the most in life?” My reply is, it actually is dependent upon your self Hitesh. For sure individuals, relationships matter extra. For sure individuals, profession issues extra.

I might say there is no such thing as a one factor that’s a very powerful. In my Dwell a Higher Life in 30 Days Program, I’ve the life wheel. The life wheel is that this self-development software that offers you an outline of the important thing areas of your life. A few of these areas embrace Profession, Love, Household, Well being, Finance. There isn’t a one factor that’s a very powerful as a result of let’s say we do not need our Well being, nothing else issues. Even when we have now the most effective Profession on the planet and all of the Cash on the planet, it doesn’t matter if we don’t have our Well being.

Relationships itself can also be essential. But when one simply focuses on Relationships on a regular basis after which neglects their very own passions, their Profession which ought to ideally be an extension of that zeal, finally they may also really feel a backlash in different areas.

So to me, all these areas are essential, and it’s vital to acknowledge them. Utilizing the life wheel is superb to measure your progress in every of those areas and to maneuver ahead within the areas that you just really feel you aren’t doing so nicely in, whereas pushing your self within the areas that you just’re doing nicely, so that you just do even higher.

Take a look at my life wheel article that I can be sharing within the present notes. For these of you who don’t have my 30DLBL program, test it out. It’s a 30-day program with 30 completely different duties all designed that can assist you transfer your life to a greater place.

Easy methods to be organized

Final however not least, we have now our final query from Melissa.

“Good day. I’ve an amazing quantity of hassle holding organized. I’ve a house enterprise and I see lots of people every day. It’s fairly embarrassing. I can’t discover issues, I’m simply unorganized. My identify is Melissa. I’m from Winchester California. Thanks a lot.” — Melissa, California

Aww I’m actually sorry to listen to about your scenario Melissa. I can perceive as a result of we stay in an age the place there’s simply a lot info that it may be exhausting to maintain issues organized.

Simplicity is the important thing. Provide you with a easy, easy-to-follow system to kind your information, to maintain monitor of your to-dos, and to know what you could do subsequent. Though I’m a really organized individual, final 12 months, I noticed I wanted to take severe outing to arrange my laptop. There have been simply so many issues, like completely different variations of a mission, completely different variations of a file, uncooked information of podcast, uncooked information of programs.

So I spent fairly a couple of weeks deleting information that I had not checked out in endlessly. And popping out with an intuitive folder construction that I may simply click on and discover what I want. It’s essential to have a structured system that you would be able to simply observe and you understand the place the issues are. It’s the identical for you. Put aside the time to correctly reorganize and type out your folders, your information.

For appointments, I exploit Google Calendar. It may be synced together with your smartphone. You’ll be able to specify whether or not you need it to remind you earlier than every appointment. Each day, simply making that your go-to web page. Create a calendar for various functions, reminiscent of social appointments and one other one for work conferences.

For instance, I’ve completely different mini-calendars. One is for Appointments, the place I’ve to exit and meet individuals. One other one for Programs/Teaching and I’ve it in a special colour. Then one other sub-calendar for Household in a special calendar. You’ll be able to toggle them on and off so while you click on every calendar, it disappears from the fast view.

This fashion you’d by no means miss a deadline as a result of it’s all there. If there’s one thing that’s vital, then put it within the calendar as an appointment. If there’s one thing that’s pressing however you’ll be able to’t get to straight away, put it in your calendar as nicely. Have your calendar open as a browser tab so to discuss with it commonly. To know what’s subsequent, what you could do and so forth.

Closing Observe

In order that’s it! Thanks a lot for sending within the questions. It’s actually been a blast for me to listen to your voices and reply your questions. I hope you will have discovered my solutions helpful indirectly.

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